My friend shared a question that she saw someone ask in a group that I think is worth talking about. Because it was shared privately, the names will remain anonymous. A woman posted:

Do people ever really get past their money blocks? Like… REALLY get past them? 

I have done sooooooo much work on myself when it comes to money and we still aren’t making enough money to get out of debt, get a newer family car that doesn’t need fixing all the time or pay for braces that my kids need.

I have been studying Leslie Householder’s stuff for years and it seems like learning what she teaches helps people get a little more financially successful but I have dreams of being wildly successful but can’t even get close to that. I took my daughter to find a new Sunday dress today (and she is VERY picky and VERY hard on herself and how she looks) and I got so triggered by all the dresses being $80+ and I literally started crying in the mall 😭

I feel so hopeless right now. And I don’t feel like I really even have any examples of people with life long money issues actually really heal them.

Did you catch that?

This girl has done extensive inner work. Years of learning, praying, studying principles. And yet, here she is, still in debt. Still driving a car that keeps breaking down. Still unable to pay for braces. Still not making enough to breathe.

She has dreams of being wildly successful, but thinks she can’t even get close.

Now, before I address this, I just want to say...

Man, I feel for her. I can completely relate to her hopelessness. I've lived that experience. Struggled with that feeling of, “I’ve done everything I know… but it's just never enough!” Moments of excitement and hope always turning into disappointment, over and over and over again. Bitter. Frustrated, feeling abandoned, forgotten. Having to answer to kids who can't have what they want. Wondering, why do things seem to work out for everyone else, but not us???

My friend responded to the original poster:

I can relate to this so much. I am now realizing I just have layers upon layers of blocks some of which I have moved through on some of which I'm still working on. Leslie and her work has helped me in so many ways and as I look back to my life before I discovered it, I can see a massive difference, even though on paper it may not look like I am rich according to what the rest of the world would think.

But I have learned that I don't necessarily need a lot of money to be able to enjoy the things that I most desire....

For example, I could not afford a brand new dress for my daughter to go to prom, but we were gifted the most beautiful and perfect dress for her from someone else and I don't think I could have even purchased something that she would have liked as well.

...[A]nother thing that Leslie herself pointed out to me, is I think I have found myself in a pattern of becoming addicted almost, to overcoming all the odds and having financial emergencies, followed by incredible miracles that saved me usually at the very last minute. Because I have had some incredibly miraculous stories and experiences when it comes to finances... And I'm realizing that there was a bit of a thrill in waiting and wondering what the miracle might be.

It usually involved an inordinate amount of hard work on my part as well... So that's kind of what I'm working on right now, but if I look back to the scarcity mindset I was in 10 years ago, I can see how far I've come. So, maybe take a look at what you have learned and feel some gratitude for how far you have probably come as well.

Another reader added,

I felt so similar to you, and swear that I've done 10x the amount of financial block work of anyone else that I know 😅  Some days it doesn't feel like I've overcome very much, but here's the short list of what has actually happened, after being literally homeless and in a domestic violence marriage:

• I started my own business
• I've traveled so very much
• I have made over $1M as an entrepreneur
• I have married the most amazing partner for me I could ever imagine
• I help others break their own cycles of chaos through God-centered Spirituality

I love Leslie Householder!! Her stuff was the original catalyst for changing my financial life. ... I also am aware that other people are not sharing this reality and are in their own version of hell when it comes to money. ... I promise it gets better. I promise you can do it. I promise the answers are inside of you. I promise it's worth it.

After my friend shared all this with me, I was taking in the original poster's concerns and noticed something. Where she said:

"I have dreams of being wildly successful but can’t even get close to that..."

My push-back or question would be this...

"What do you want to be wildly successful FOR?"

Everyone should ask themselves that question. If you can get to the root of what you think all the money would actually DO, that's where you find your answer. You've got to directly access the feeling you think money will give you, even before you have the money, or the money will probably never come.

The fact is, money does not DO what people think it will do. In reality, if big money comes prematurely, it probably won't last. To prepare for big money (if it's actually needed), you have to get to a point where you don't "need" it so much.

I remember the moment when I gave up and decided, "I guess I'll just have to learn how to be happy with things exactly as they are." For me, it was a lament. But in terms of aligning with true principles, I was finally turning a corner.

It's about :

1. Making peace and finding happiness right where you're at
2. Discovering that the things you want can come with or without money, and then
3. Getting clear and on path toward your divine purpose/mission - even if it's just having clarity about and deciding to make your home a little more loving and peaceful today.

Because, the good news is, if your mission requires a bazillion dollars, you'll get it! If you don't need a bazillion dollars to fulfill your purpose for being here, then why spend the energy longing for it? It would be a hollow and fruitless pursuit.

Other teachers might spend more time helping you put another zero or two at the end of your net worth. But what I want to make sure you have is financial peace of mind:

The thing is, most people try to get "wildly successful" because of what they think big money will DO for them. But once you identify the real reason for wanting it, the "neediness" can dissipate. Neediness is what repels the thing we want, anyway.

The promise is, "Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you," (Matthew 6:33). Too often we instead spend all our time seeking first "all the monetary things", and then wonder why they remain so elusive. 

Garrett Gunderson (my co-author to Portal to Genius) explains it with the Prosperity Equation, where Financial Capital is a BYPRODUCT of Mental Capital and Relationship Capital. You don't build wealth by focusing on the money side of the equation, you build it by focusing on helping other people solve their problems. 

So again...

 What do you want to be wildly successful FOR?

It's as an honest inquiry. What do you believe big money will actually give you?

• Relief?
• Safety?
• Rest?
• A sense that you’re finally okay?
• Proof that you didn’t fail?

Because money doesn’t really give us all that the way we think or hope it will. I’ve seen too much money come too fast and fall apart. I’ve also seen people chase it from fear or urgency and somehow push it farther away the harder they try.

In my faith culture, there’s a concept about recognizing when we have sufficient for our needs. It's not to say we should never want more, but to live in gratitude for what we already have, and recognize the TRUE Source of all those feelings (relief, safety, rest, a sense of being okay, and not feeling like a failure).

Those feelings are meant to come from our relationship with the Father, not from money. The cool thing is, as you find those feelings through a relationship with HIM, that's when you'll find yourself experiencing the divine provision and unlimited flow that people talk about, for accomplishing everything you are truly here to do. Miracles abound for people who learn to trust the Lord.

The Israelites had to learn this with manna. If they gathered more than they needed, it spoiled. Not because having abundance was inherently a bad thing, but because the limitations were teaching them where they should place their trust, and how it feels to develop it.

“Give us this day our daily bread” isn’t about what you get to eat. It’s about developing a peaceful, confident, and loyal relationship.

Related: The Unexpected Cure for Doubt

One of the hardest spiritual truths to sit with is this:

God already wants to give us what we need. But what usually interferes isn’t unworthiness or lack of effort...  It’s fear.

D&C 67:3 says, "Ye endeavored to believe that ye should receive the blessing which was offered unto you; but behold, verily I say unto you there were fears in your hearts, and verily this is the reason that ye did not receive."

Again, God already wants to give us everything we need, but sometimes our anxiety around money is the very thing getting in the way of it coming to us.

When we chase money, we repel it.

When we just focus on doing the next right thing, and trust that we will have what we need as we truly need it, and as we develop a steady, regulated nervous system by increasing our gratitude, trust, and patience... opportunities show up, and doors open for us. And then as we take courage and walk through those doors, abundance begins to flow more easily.

Fear tightens everything.

Neediness does, too.

And a tightened system just doesn’t receive very well. When we chase money from anxiety, it runs. When we focus on calming the system, building trust, and staying rooted in gratitude, it starts to move more naturally.

Here is a short clip to help you understand what I'm talking about:

So… do people ever really get past money blocks?

Yes. Just not in the way people usually imagine.

They don’t wake up one day with no triggers and unlimited income. They wake up with a little more peace than panic. A little more trust than urgency. Sometimes just enough evidence to keep going. And then, years later, they look back and realize something was shifting all along, even when it didn’t look like it.

If you’re in that place right now, hear this:

You are not behind, and this struggle is not pointless.

The work you're doing -- hoping, striving, trying, failing --- is doing something, even if you can’t see the results on your ledger yet. And sometimes the biggest shift isn’t that money finally shows up, it’s that you stop needing it and worrying about it so much.

WHAT IF... all the money you'll ever need will ALWAYS be available to you, as you demonstrate a commitment to keeping calm no matter what? Keep calm, and watch what happens.

Put it to the test. Next time you feel fear, frustration, or worry, say, "I choose to keep calm, and trust that from this calm place, I am more qualified for the blessing I seek. Keeping calm will help be more in tune with the Father, and more receptive to His unseen guidance, which will lead me to the next right steps that will bring me to the solution."

From that place of unfounded, irrational, unreasonable trust… where you have no valid evidence supporting the belief that everything is going to be okay but you choose to believe it anyway... that's where things really begin to change.

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