What if the way you talk to yourself when you can't have what you want ... has more of an impact than you think on how quickly that might change?

Let me share a question I received from one of my students and my reply.

She asked...

Question:

Say you are feeling as though things are already done and you've been imagining money coming to you, etc...

What do you do when you feel wealthy, but the reality is there are several things outside your budget that you want and your brain says, "Well, if you were wealthy, you could get / do that, but you're not!"

What do you say to quiet that voice? 

Answer:

Here are a few thoughts. First let me lay a foundation.

Once you adopt a new truth and your subconscious accepts it, it begins scanning for ways to move you toward it. You’ll notice your radar turning on... your curiosity catching ideas, conversations, and opportunities that align with where you’re headed.

If that isn’t happening—if you’re not naturally seeing and exploring possibilities—it may be a sign your subconscious isn’t fully enlisted yet. That’s your cue to get clearer on what you want and, just as important, how it would feel to have it.

But if you are actively looking and expecting the way (and that inner voice is still nagging) you can remove the shame by responding differently: “I choose not to do that right now.”

That’s how people with a wealth mindset think. Not “I can’t,” but “not now.”

“I’ll do that later.”
“I’m choosing something else right now.”

I used this with my kids years ago when they asked for things we couldn’t afford: “I choose not to spend money on that right now.” Can you feel the difference between that and “We can’t have that”?

If this makes sense to you, it might help to think of those nagging thoughts like children. It puts your conscious mind back in charge.

Choosing to deny yourself, rather than feeling deprived, is powerful. It keeps you aligned with a wealth mindset—and removes one more block between you and where you’re going.